MIscarriage

Miscarriage

miscarriage

EARLY MISCARRIAGE

DEFINITION: the loss of a pregnancy or baby, up until 11 weeks 6 days gestation. Approximately 1 in 4 pregnancies ends in miscarriage.

COMMON FEELINGS

  • Disappointed, depressed, ashamed, guilty
  • Dread, panic, constant worry, anxiety

COMMON THOUGHTS

  • Why does this happen to me?
  • I just need to be pregnant
  • Is there something wrong with me/us?
  • Did I do something wrong?
  • I will never have a baby

How Petals can help:

Petals counselling sessions provide a secure space for women to talk about the fear and broken expectations that usually come following the early miscarriage of pregnancy. Whilst most women know that early miscarriage is possible, when it happens to them it often brings a mixture of emotions that leaves them feeling vulnerable, frightened about the future, and let down.

Having the space to talk about this and process these feelings with a Petals counsellor supports women to find their resilience and feel able to try again.

Where to find out more: The Miscarriage Association

Late Miscarriage

DEFINITION: the loss of a pregnancy or baby, up until 23 weeks 6 days gestation. Approximately 1 in 4 pregnancies ends in miscarriage.

COMMON FEELINGS

  • Unprepared, frightened, in disbelief

  • Naïve, betrayed, let down

  • Bewildered, broken, devastated

COMMON THOUGHTS

  • What did I do wrong?

  • There must be something the doctors can do to save my baby

  • I should have known there was something wrong

  • If only I had….

How Petals can help:

Late miscarriage is usually unexpected, and couples often report feeling naïve that they trusted their pregnancy was safe.  Petals counselling sessions provide a safe space to explore the bewilderment that this can and has happened, and the shock and trauma that is often experienced as couples have to face the birth of their baby many weeks before they had expected and planned for this.

The counselling sessions become an important place to re-visit really difficult memories and process any trauma that was experienced at that time.  Working together through this enables couples to find hope and trust in the future for their family and to begin to believe that a new pregnancy is possible, and that future pregnancy will be successful.

Where to find out more: The Miscarriage Association